Good Etiquette

Supplication After Sneezing

الحَمْدُ للهِ

alhamdulillah

Segala puji bagi Allah.

Invocation for sneezing

إِذَا عَطَسَ أَحَدُكُم فَلْيَقُلِ الْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ، وَلْيَقُلْ لَهُ أَخُوهُ أَوْ صَاحِبُهُ: يَرْحَمُكَ اللَّهُ، فَإِذَا قَالَ لَهُ: يَرحَمُكَ اللَّهُ، فَلْيَقُلْ: يَهْدِيكُمُ اللَّهُ وَيُصْلِحُ بَالَكُمْ

Yahdeekumul-lahu wayuslihu balakum.

When one of you sneezes he should say:“All praise if for Allah.” and his brother or companion should say to him: “May Allah have mercy upon you.” and he (i.e. the one who sneezed) replies back to him:“May Allah guide you and rectify your condition.”

What to say while sitting in an assembly

عَنِ ابْنِ عُمَرَ رضي الله عنه قَاَلَ: كَانَ يُعَدُّ لِرَسُولِ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم فِي الْمَجْلِسِ الوَاحِدِ مِائَةُ مَرَّةٍ مِنْ قَبْلِ أَنْ يَقُومَ: «رَبِّ اغْفِرْ لِي، وَتُبْ عَلَيَّ، إِنَّكَ أَنْتَ التَّوَّابُ الغَفُورُ»

Rabbigh-fir lee watub ‘alay, innaka antat-tawwabul-ghafoor.

Ibn ‘umar said: It would be counted that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ would say one hundred times at any one sitting before getting up: “O my Lord, forgive me and turn towards me (to accept my repentance). Verily You are The Oft-Returning. The Oft-Forgiving.”

Invocation for someone who does good to you

جَزَاكَ اللَّهُ خَيْراً

If someone does you a favour and you say: “May Allah reward you with goodness.” then you have indeed excelled in praising him.

Invocation for someone who tells you I love you for the sake of Allah

أَحَبَّكَ الَّذِي أَحْبَبْتَنِي لَهُ

Ahabbakal-lathee ahbabtanee lah.

May He, for whom you have loved me, love you.

Invocation for someone who offers you a share of his wealth

بَارَكَ اللَّهُ لَكَ فِي أَهْلِكَ وَمَالِكَ

Barakal-lahu laka fee ahlika wamalik.

May Allah bless for you, your family and wealth.

Invocation (upon receipt of the loan) for someone who lends you money

بارَكَ اللَّهُ لَكَ فِي أَهْلِكَ وَمَالِكَ، إِنَّمَا جَزَاءُ السَّلَفِ الْحَمْدُ وَالأَدَاءُ

Barakal-lahu laka fee ahlika wamalik, innama jaza-os-salafil-hamdu wal-ada'.

May Allah bless for you, your family and wealth. Surely commendation and payment are the reward for a loan.

Invocation for someone who tells you: May Allah bless you

وَفِيكَ بَارَكَ اللَّهُ

Aaishah reported that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ was given a sheep and he ordered for it’s distribution. When the servant would come back (from distributing it), ‘aishah would ask: ‘What did they say?’, he replied: They would supplicate: “May Allah bless you all.” ‘aishah would then say: “and may Allah bless them.” We return their supplication in a similar way and our reward remains with us.

Spreading the greetings of Salam (Peace)

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم: «لاَ تَدْخُلُوا الْجَنَّةَ حَتَّى تُؤْمِنُوا، وَلاَ تُؤْمِنُوا حَتَّى تَحَابُّوا، أَوَلاَ أَدُلُّكُم عَلَى شَيْءٍ إِذَا فَعَلْتُمُوهُ تَحَابَبْتُم، أَفْشُوا السَّلاَمَ بَيْنَكُمْ»

The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: ‘You shall not enter paradise until you believe, and you shall not believe until you love one another. Shall I not inform you of something, if you were to act upon it, you will indeed achieve mutual love for one another? Spread the greeting amongst yourselves.

Spreading the greetings of Salam (Peace)

ثَلاَثٌ مَنْ جَمَعَهُنَّ فَقَدْ جَمَعَ الْإِيمَانَ: الْإِنْصَافُ مِنْ نَفْسِكَ، وَبَذْلُ السَّلاَمِ لِلْعَالَمِ، وَالْإِنْفَاقُ مِنَ الإِقْتَارِ

Aammar said: ‘Three characteristics, whoever combines them, has completed his faith: to be just, to spread greetings to all people and to spend (charitably) out of the little you have.

Spreading the greetings of Salam (Peace)

وَعَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ عُمَرَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا: أنَّ رَجُلاً سَأَلَ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم أيُّ الْإِسْلاَمِ خَيْرٌ قَالَ: «تُطْعِمُ الطَّعَامَ، وَتَقْرأُ السَّلاَمَ عَلَى مَنْ عَرَفْتَ وَمَنْ لَمْ تَعْرِفْ»

Aabdullah Ibn Aamr reported that a man asked the Prophet: ‘Which Islam is the best?’. He ﷺ replied: Feed (the poor), and greet those whom you know as well as those whom you do not.

How to reply to a disbeliever if he says Salam to you

إذَا سَلَّمَ عَلَيْكُمْ أَهْلُ الْكِتَابِ فَقُولُوا: وَعَلَيْكُمْ

When the people of the Book greet you, reply by saying: “And upon you.”

How a Muslim should praise another Muslim

قَالَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم: «إِذَا كَانَ أَحَدُكُم مَادِحاً صَاحِبَهُ لاَ مَحَالَةَ فَلْيَقُلْ: أَحْسِبُ فُلاَناً وَاللَّهُ حَسِيبُهُ، وَلاَ أُزَكِّي عَلَى اللَّهِ أَحَداً، أَحْسِبُهُ – إِنْ كَانَ يَعْلَمُ ذَاكَ – كَذَا وَكَذَا»

He ﷺ said: ‘If anyone of you is impelled to praise his brother, then he should say: ‘I deem so-and-so to be…and Allah is his reckoner…and I don’t praise anyone, putting it (i.e. my praising) forward, in front of Allah’s commendation, however I assume him so and so’…if he knows that of him.

What a Muslim should say when he is praised

اللَّهُمَّ لاَ تُؤَاخِذْنِي بِمَا يَقُولُونَ، وَاغْفِرْ لِي مَا لاَ يَعْلَمُونَ، وَاجْعَلْنِي خَيْراً مِمَّا يَظُّنُّونَ

Allaahumma laa tu'aakhithnee bimaa yaqooloona, waghfir lee maa laa ya'lamoona waj'alnee khayram-mimmaa yadhunnoon

O Allah, do not call me to account for what they say and forgive me for what they have no knowledge of and make me better than they imagine.